How to *not* lose yourself in a relationship

You attracted this person into your life and fell in love because you were in a space where you were taking such good care of yourself, treating yourself like a queen, on the journey of falling deeply in love with yourself — so when you met this person, it was an easy yes.

For you and for them.

Their love felt so good to receive. You let it all the way in.

Now you are 6 months to a year in, and starting to feel dependent on their love.

Asking yourself, “Wait, how did I get here… I was so confident.”

You are realizing that you’ve fallen off your healthy girl routines, you aren’t showing up for yourself and loving yourself like you were pre-relationship, and the impact is starting to set in.

When everything feels good with your partner, you feel great.

But when things are a little off, or a lot off… you feel sick. 😓

💡Why does this happen?

It’s natural to find new routines and adjust our lifestyle when we welcome a new relationship in.

But it’s a little too easy to get swept up into meshing into this person.

When you have a steady stream of love, approval and affection coming your way - why would you need to stay devoted to your self-care rituals?

Right?

Wrong.

There are two big issues here:

➡️ You become dependent on their love. They feel trapped by your love… like you NEED them.

➡️ Your partner wants you to be the fullest, most expressed version of yourself — this is the woman they deeply love. You being your most authentic and full-out YOU is in service to the relationship.

So, how can we remain centered in who we are and LOVE who we get to be in relationship?

What it comes down to → YOU are responsible for your happiness, not your partner.

I know I know, you’ve heard that before. But have you truly digested it?

When you make your partner responsible for your happiness, you also make them responsible for your unhappiness.

If you’d like to receive deeper support around overcoming this pattern of self-abandonment so that you can feel free and liberated in a long-term relationship, make sure you’re on the waitlist for Radiant Relationship Academy.

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