What Fulfilling relationships are all about

I was having a conversation with a friend a couple weeks ago and I asked him what his experience was like with women he dates…⁣

He shared that his most frustrating experience with a past partner was when she wasn’t able to give him the space to just be and relax when he got home from work.⁣⁣

🙍🏼‍♀️ She would nag him and tell him he needed to give her more attention.⁣

🙍🏼‍♀️ She would get annoyed that he wasn’t showing up for her.⁣

🤦🏽‍♂️ He would get frustrated because all he wanted was a few minutes to himself to relax after a long work day.⁣

♻️ And this would lead to arguments, basically the same fight on repeat.⁣

💡 MY THOUGHTS…⁣

She wanted his presence.⁣

BADLY.⁣

She wanted closeness with him.⁣

She wanted to feel seen.⁣

All valid, yes.⁣

💖 These are the feminine’s deepest desires and needs.⁣

The masculine’s deepest desire?⁣

To be free of burden.⁣

🔥 The masculine is driven by his purpose and vision, and it can feel very overwhelming to hold such responsibility.⁣

After coming home from work, he simply desired to feel free of burden for a few moments.

While the feminine is desiring closeness, affection, to share how she is feeling, etc etc.⁣

So, What went wrong?⁣

The lack of awareness and true understanding of their own needs and ownership of them, as well as the lack of intentional communication.⁣

This is very common.⁣

We expect our partner to just KNOW.⁣

Before we even know.⁣

How could this have been resolved to result in more understanding, intimacy and connection?⁣

🤎 Each partner taking radical responsibility for themselves.

🤎 Knowing themselves, checking in to inquire: “What am I feeling? What am I needing?”

🤎 Communicating that from a place of ownership and compassion.

🤎 Getting curious about their partner’s experience and perspective.

Having a fulfilling relationship is about collaboration.⁣

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