MY HOT TAKE: Change yourself for love?

Story timeeeee!

One of my videos on TikTok went viral last week (currently at 2.4 million views 🚀) and caused a lot of commotion in the comments and I want to breakdown WHY I believe this is.

View it here & follow me while you’re there!

It’s no secret that people DO NOT LIKE for their beliefs and perspective of the world to be challenged.

So when I spoke in the Tik Tok about the difference in what the two women were embodying and WHY that would lead to attracting different types of men — the crowd went wild. 😂😂

The main piece of push back I was getting is this idea that we shouldn’t have to “change ourselves” to have the relationship that we want.

I could not agree less with this. Let me explain…

Do we need to change in the sense of abandoning who we are, becoming inauthentic and wearing masks to please others? No, in fact it’s the exact opposite that I’m suggesting.

THIS is actually what so many people are doing CURRENTLY in relationship. 👆👆👆

Many just don’t know it.

I’m suggesting that we need to be willing to reflect on our current behaviors and beliefs to see the impact that is creating on who we are attracting and who we are being in relationship.

You WILL need to change your patterns, beliefs, thoughts, skills and perspective IF you want a healthy, emotionally available, long-lasting relationship.

💡 But here’s the thing, this type of internal work only makes you MORE authentic and true to who you really are.

So you aren’t changing who you are, you are becoming MORE of who you are.

It’s not that you need to change to be worthy of love — it’s that your current beliefs and patterns may be blocking the love you want and you need to be willing to do the work required for love.

Do you think you should just get to have a million dollars just because? No, you would need to develop yourself and your skills in some way to receive that million dollars.

Same with love, babe. ❤️

And now you may have the question of, “Okay, but how?”

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